As women, there’s a bunch of stuff we do that doesn’t… how shall I put this?
It’s not our fault – there’s a long process of socialisation that eventually leads to me, as a 26-year-old woman, not being able to leave the house without make up on my face, or dreaming about marrying my future husband in a goddamn white wedding dress.
Of course, weddings are one of the events we participate in that make particularly little sense.
Everything from what you wear on your wedding day to who walks you down the aisle is laden with patriarchal meaning that’s been established over hundreds (or even thousands) of years. But for a lot of us, that doesn’t stop us from wanting it.
I was recently at a wedding where the bride wore her mother’s veil. It was stunning, obviously, but there was something about seeing a woman wearing a piece of fabric over her face that made me interested in where the tradition came from.
Of course, in 2017, veils are excellent. They solve the age-old problem of the ‘ugly-cry’. While the man is standing at the altar trying to not appear emotional, us ladies can have snot running down our faces and no one can see.
But something tells me no one was thinking about the ugly-cry when they designed the veil.
Interestingly, it's thought that the bride's veil and bouquet predates the wearing of white at weddings.