It’s not uncommon for people to reflect back on their lives when they’re old, and get hung up on that thing they did or didn’t do, or said or didn’t say, way back when.
As emotional, empathetic humans, we tend to dissect and dwell on the big decisions we’ve made, how we’ve treated others, ponder “what if” when imagining a different path than the one we’ve walked. All of which leads us to our regrets.
But what if you’re a narcissist: a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves? Can such a person have the self-awareness to truly regret things late in their life?
One person online was curious about this, asking a crowd, “What do narcissists usually regret when they’re old?”
The answers were interesting and not all that varied, with a common thread holding them together: any regret a narcissist did admit was usually blamed on someone, or something, else, and was almost never the result of their own actions or behaviours.
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Katie gives a prime example with her post:
“My mom is now 63 years old and is a covert narcissist. One night I was at her house and I heard her sobbing in her room… I go ask her what's wrong and she starts telling me how she has wasted her whole life. That she never should have married my dad, like it would have been so much better if she hadn't… My parents got married when my mom was 21 yrs old. My mom had no family no education and no money NOTHING. My dad became a school teacher, earned a good living, never laid a hand on her never cheated… I have never seen my dad even drink alcohol…but she is miserable and it has to be someone else's fault right? So she sits in her room drinking her wine every night feeling sorry for herself. Thinking about how special she is and how far she could have gone if my father hadn't ruined her life.”