Content warning: This post contains mentions of stillbirth some readers may find triggering.
And on top of feeling this overwhelming and insurmountable grief, there is something truly tragic that parents are expected to do.
That is to find clothes for their children to be buried in.
They need to find a gown. Or pick through bins of donated clothing to try and find something appropriate.
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This is what parents have to be thinking about – such a minor yet cutting detail – while grieving for their lost child.
There is, however, a group working to make this easier for parents – doing what they can to ease the pain during those blurry, stomach-churning, heart-breaking moments.
The Angel Gowns organisation in Australia transforms donated wedding dresses into gown for babies who didn’t make it. Either they were still-born or they tragically passed away at a young age.
Fiona Kirk, the founder of Angel Gowns said she started the organisation when she heard of a similar group operating in the US and wanted to help women in Australia with the same service – handcrafting old wedding dresses into a new symbol of beauty.
She said it helps families because “this gives them the strength to leave the hospital because it is the most traumatic feeling to leave the baby behind in the hospital.”
“Our gowns are sewn with love and then given to families.”
Working fulltime as an Executive Assistant to an Assistant Commissioner at the ATO and then doing fulltime hours on Angel Gowns Australia is so worth it. My husband and family are so understanding that this was a life time dream for me to run my own Charity. The hours are long and hard, the cause often so heartbreaking but the letters from bereaved families who have recieved a gown purely heart warming. @ausoftheyear @jtkaok