There are plenty of activities that could legitimately be called brave.
Being diagnosed with cancer, and doing everything you can to keep living your life. Fighting on the front line. Fighting fires. Speaking out about mental illness, a hugely stigmatised topic.
And then there are the things that are called ‘brave’ on a semi-regular basis that, well, maybe aren’t so much.
So we’ve decided that instead of calling these activities ‘brave’ – and so implying that you’re overcoming some sort of terror that’s worse than Lord Voldemort – we should start calling them something else entirely.
Here we go.
1. Not wearing make up.
Yes, by not wearing make up you are shaking off the shackles of the patriarchy and society, and daring to show your face exactly as it is. And that’s fantastic – all the power to you. But when absolutely gorgeous celebrities go without make-up, are they really being ‘brave’? If we pop down to the corner store for a carton of milk and a Mars bar without taking a trip to the powder room, are we really being ‘brave’?
Not so much.
Let’s just call it being awesome.
2. Being single.
Anyone who has been single for any significant period of time, has undoubtedly experienced this one at large social engagements. Weddings, baby showers, your cousin’s birthday, having a wine night with your female friends… At some point the topic of your relationship status will come up, and if you don’t immediately throw yourself to ground and start bawling – i.e. show that you are appropriately upset at not being loved-up – someone will assume that your attitude is just bravado. Secretly, you’re in a lot of pain, but you’re not showing it.
It’s so brave.
Actually, no. It’s just being comfortable with your own company.
And that’s awesome.
3. Daring to be anything other than a size 6, and still wearing whatever the hell you want.
If you don’t look like a model and you dare to wear a bodycon-style dress – you’re (apparently) brave. Because you’d have to have so much courage to be comfortable in a body like that, right?
No. Because it’s not brave. It’s just plain awesome.