(I found this picture of grandparents in Google images but it's probably not very accurate because very few nannas I know look like this. Not a grey hair among them!)
Last weekend we took the kids to visit my grandmother-in-law in the nursing home where she now lives. It was, as always, a poignant visit. We arrived at lunchtime and looking around at everyone sitting at tables with their bibs…many being fed…..it was hard to watch. With the kids and particularly Remy, in his capsule, the contrast between the begining and end of the life cycle was stark.
We don't visit Jason's grandmother nearly enough and there is no excuse. We should. She'll be 100 in a year or so.
Just that morning, I'd been reading a wonderful column in the Tele by Annette Sharp about how she'd been looking for a nanna for her three young daughters. Her own parents are alive but living several hours away and her children and parents don't have regular time together due to the distance. Conscious that her children are missing out on the invaluable benefits of a relationship with adults of that generation and aware that many older people are without their own grandchildren by reason of distance or circumstance, Annette has been trying to find a mutually beneficial substitute 'nanna' relationship.
Over the past year or so she's sought a nanna for her girls via posting notices in her doctor's surgery and church but she hasn't had much luck. Recently, she met a lovely older Italian woman by chance when attending an auction and has been slowly exploring a mix of occasional visits and paid care.
Unfortunately, this touching personal story hasn't been posted online but there was another story here a couple days earlier about other people looking for surrogate grandparents which is worth a read.
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Grandparents are so important. My gran was diagnosed with cancer in 2008, she did well with the treatments but was told it was terminal. Myself and my sister (along with our partners) decided to try for kids so that she could meet them. Our pregnancies gave her so much to keep going and stay strong for and were a welcome distraction for her, my mum and us. My sister had a little boy in March 2010 and I had a little girl two days later. She was overjoyed and cherished them til she passed away in September. We all miss her but are so glad our babies got to spend 6 months with such an exceptional woman. We are all blessed to have known her. RIP Gran, you were one in a million xxx