Sex – once almost exclusively reserved for married couples – is now, for the most part, seen as an essential part of the life partner decision-making process.
So what about those couples who in the 21st century, are still waiting until their wedding night to have sex for the first time? What’s it like to remain a virgin until marriage?
Well, according to those who replied to a juicy Reddit thread asking the same question, it can be good, it can be bad and it can be just plain awkward.
‘We didn’t quite make it… and then we made up for lost time.’
Hansvanhengel explained that he and his ex-girlfriend had “practised abstinence” on religious grounds for years, but couldn’t quite make it to their wedding day. When they did have sex, however, they made up for lost time.
“Now imagine a young couple having spent literally years of teasing each other…
“I can still remember one weekend (Friday evening until Monday morning) in which we literally had sex 28 times. We did not leave our bedroom. It was marvellous.”
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However, that relationship later ended when his partner cheated on him.
Once again Hansvanhengel chose to wait, and he and his now-wife managed to make it to their wedding day. Unfortunately, it wasn’t great.
“Not for religious reason this time, but because we felt it would be better for us. We waited for 1.5 years, the married and then had sex the first time.
“The same kind of teasing as with my ex. But it was… incredibly underwhelming,” he said, adding it’s since gotten better. Kinda.
‘They had zero chemistry.’
My-alter-ego-Melody writes that her decision to wait until marriage to have sex worked out perfectly fine, but her sister, on the other hand, had an entirely different experience.
“My sister also waited until marriage with her first husband and she says despite all the chemistry and sexual tension leading up to the wedding once they were actually married that all disappeared.
“They had zero chemistry and had a dead bedroom within about three months of marriage.
“They divorced two years later and the lack of sexual compatibility was a heavy contributing factor.”
‘We had to wait until two years after marriage.’
Gumpfanatic says his wife and he married as virgins after dating for four years. Unfortunately, their chastity didn’t end there.
“We were all hot and horny our whole relationship so we were very much looking forward to our first time, in Maui with a view! It was going to be magical!”