Most of the time when someone puts a sparkly ring on your finger and asks you to marry them, you’re just so happy they asked.

But every now and again, a person may not like the ring their spouse-to-be has chosen for them. And that’s okay. Totally fine.

Unless you plan to shame them in a Facebook group dedicated to ring-shaming – then maybe it’s not so okay.

That’s what one woman decided to do recently when she discovered a ring hidden in her boyfriend’s bedside table, which she decided she was “not a fan” of.

“Ewwwww. Self shame Friday here I come. Found this in the BF’s nightstand. Not a fan,” the unnamed woman wrote in a ring shaming Facebook group.

“Please roast and then tell me how to tactfully say no you need to go get something different.”

She had also captioned the image of the (in our opinion, beautiful) ring with a disappointed emoji and the words “Basic AF”.

Oh-kayyy then.

It wasn't long before the photo was spotted by someone who decided to share it on Reddit. And the woman got some roasting... just not about the ring.

"Never mind the ring shaming, shameless snooping there is just gross," one pointed out.

"What breaks my heart the most is: what if this is the dude's grandma/mum's ring?" another pondered.

"This is the saddest thing I’ve seen [on this Reddit page]. It’s one thing when it’s a total stranger, but when someone that’s supposed to love you unconditionally acts like a grifter it’s just plain sad."

Others agreed the best thing that could happen is if the boyfriend didn't propose at all.

"Honestly, her saying no would be the best thing to happen to the person who's planning to propose," one user commented.

"I hope he sees this, and then RUNS. To post this degrading sh*t to social media to first insult it, and then ask for ways to get something better from someone she supposedly loves just defies what this ring should really be about and proves she doesn't even deserve a ring out of a dollar vending machine. This poor, poor man."

While more were most concerned that she'd shared it on a group specifically made for engagement ring bashing.

"And she shared it on social media where all the people they know can see how inadequate he is. Ouch," one wrote.

"Oh god. It was bad enough when I thought it was just one person asking their friends and family. But a ring shaming group? Disgusting..."

It didn't take long for people to move on and start sharing their own stories of rings they gave and accepted of all different prices and styles - just to reassure those who hadn't yet proposed that not all people reacted this way.

"I was broke as f**k when I proposed and bought an $80 ring at a flea market, she was thrilled, that’s a keeper," one man wrote.

"I’m currently engaged. When we were talking about it beforehand, I gave him one request when it came to the ring: the cheaper, the better," one woman began.

"When he proposed, the (absolutely perfect, $120) ring was still on order, and I didn’t even notice he didn’t have one until he sheepishly admitted that it hadn’t arrived on time. I didn’t care one single bit! It’s not the ring I’m proud to show off, it’s my amazing partner."

Were you happy with your engagement ring? Or did you find a way to tell your partner it wasn't quite right?