Types of relationships. There’re countless. Each relationship is seemingly unique, different from the last, different (sometimes hopefully) from the next. Yet, these relationships have one thing in common. They are destined never to be with the ‘one’.
Here are 11 of the most common types of relationships and these are the ones we will all journey through – maybe for years, maybe for minutes – before we find the ‘one’. These are the relationships doomed from the start, but nevertheless we start them.
We’ve seen friends in them, we’ve been in them too.
Are you in one now?
We’ve all been there. You’re riding off the back of an intense break up. Maybe you’re on a high, free and relieved. Maybe you’re on a desperate low, looking for a way to drown your sorrows. Either way, one lucky individual is sure to catch your eye. They’re filling a void, making you feel good, helping you understand all the reasons why your ex-relationship was not meant to be. It’s the rebound and it’s game on. Sex. Emotion. One powerful bounce back into the world of dating.
Friends with benefits.
So you know them well. You’ve probably had a platonic friendship for a long time and then something changed. Perhaps one night, at the exact same dinner you’ve done every month for the last five years, something different caught your eye. You’re getting your rocks off with each other and it’s perfect. You know each other well. You know each other’s flaws, strengths, history. You’re not expecting anything, because you’re just friends. Great sex, without pressure, with someone you trust = perfect. Until you do start to expect something. Then it’s allllll over.
This is so romantic. You know it’s not right. Maybe one of you is in a relationship. Maybe you work together. Maybe your from different cultures, communities, religions. Perhaps you’re re-living the Shakespearean reality of forbidden love from feuding families. Whatever it is, you’re in love. How do you know you’re in love? Because that rush of feeling won’t disappear despite the fact that it really, really should. All the odds are against it. One question though, what happens if it wasn’t forbidden? Would it still be as exciting, romantic, irresistible? (If the answer is still yes, then fuck the rules and go for it.)
You went out. Found someone you liked. You banged. You’re probably hungover, makeup running down your face. There isn’t much more to say about this. Except…..
One-night stands have a habit, particularly when women are involved (which, in heterosexual one-night-stands, is 100% of the time), to turn into more. It’s the hold-on. Trying to make something real and emotional out of a spontaneous (drunk?) purely physical decision. This is a disaster. Two months of sex and reading-into-every-phrase-for-a-hidden-meaning-anguish down the track, one of you will notify the other that “you’re just not feeling it, anymore”. And your one-night-stand-come-two-months-of-turmoil will be officially over. Except the hangover will be worse and you won’t move on so easily.