Being a grandparent is a different experience for everyone, and that experience changes with each grandchild.
Which style do you hope to be? Which style was your grandmother? Is it best to be a mix that draws on personality, lifestyle and family attitudes? Let us know.
1. The ones who adore their grandkids, no matter what… (aka The Playmates).
The playmates are the fun ones! There’s nothing that is easier to love than a grandchild and Playmates absolutely love their grandchildren. These are the grandparents that give big cuddles, that the kids get excited to see, that give them treats and spoil them. They have the jar of lollies in the car, they have the bedroom ready and made up for special sleepovers and the kids know that when grandma comes to babysit it’s always going to be a fun night!
This grandparent makes me think of a family friend who always showered her grandkids with kisses, cuddles and only ever had a nice thing to say to them or about them. If they misbehaved there was no real punishment and instead she stood there and looked completely and utterly pleased – perhaps she was enjoying watching her kids deal with what she once did!
2. The ones who like their grandkids, but are happy to give them back after their annual sleep over… (The Casual).
The Casual grandparents are those who prefer to prioritise other things over grand parenting. Perhaps they prefer travelling on school holidays as opposed to spending days at the museum or doing something fun with the grandkids. They stay in touch with them but just enough. They are happy to talk about the grandkids with their friends, but the story of their grandkids and their real relationship with their grandkids reflect very different stories.