I’m just going to come right out and say it – being a stay-at-home mum isn’t for me.
I could cut it a million different ways to make it more palatable, but the truth is I simply don’t enjoy it.
I love my son with all of my being but I am just not cut out to be a stay at home mum. I know women who want to stay at home but can’t for various reasons will most likely get pissed off by this post but as I’ve said a million times, these are my thoughts and feelings. Don’t like it – don’t read it.
I am not choosing to go back to work for financial reasons. I am choosing to return to work for me, so I am able to provide an even better future for my child. Yes, I worry I will miss important milestones but I try not to think about it as I come to terms my decision I’ve made.
What do you do after you kids go to bed? The Motherish confessions reveal all. (Post continues after video.)
I never had any intention not to not return, but I kept my plans lose so I could see how I felt about being a stay-at-home. I went on maternity leave. Eleven weeks later I had already made my decision.
Does that make me a bad parent? No, but after reading various articles online people sure act like it.
There seems to be a lot of guilt associated with making the decision to put your children into some form of care, especially when they’re under 12 months old.
I am going to admit it: before I became a parent I used to always wonder what stay-at-home mums did.
I used to think they had it easy. Um, they don’t. Caring for a small human day/night is fucking hard work.
My decision to return to work is not because I can’t hack it. I know many women don’t have a choice and simply have to return to work because they financially can’t afford to stay home. In the industry I am in, I am lucky to be able to work 1-2 days from home and will look to find suitable care for my child three days a week.
This is going to be hard for me. I feel guilty when people say things to me like “Oh wow, you’re going back to work?”, “But he will only be 6 months old”, “What if you miss his first steps?”. Yes, thank you Captain Obvious.