The following in an edited excerpt from Trinny Woodall's new book, Fearless.
So much of my life has been about learning how to be fearless. This is how you find confidence and joy.
I felt I had to write this book because I have met women who have been prevented from moving forward due to feelings of fear. I can recognise their fear because I have experienced it as well.
It can be the feeling of butterflies in your tummy, a fastness of breath, a tightness in your chest or feeling uncomfortable and anxious in your body. A sense of panic that you won’t be able to see clearly. We can become stuck. It’s a horrible state to live in.
People have always seen me as someone who is full of energy, self-assured and therefore fearless. I have managed to achieve a few things, but that is not to say that I have felt fearless throughout. Many times I have had to face my fears. I have to stop, think and ask myself what I really want and how I can push myself to get there. There have been many hard decisions and I have had to feel the fear, push forward and do it anyway. Sometimes you need to make a decision and take a leap of faith.
I have been through times in my life when I have had to let go of something that I didn’t fully want to – some relationships, for example – but I knew I couldn’t continue in the same situation. The unknown can be full of fear, but so can your current situation. If you are unhappy with where you are, sometimes you have to gather yourself, take that leap of faith and believe there will be a net to catch you.
Perhaps I could have learnt some lessons earlier, avoiding some of the pain of my younger years. But would I be where I am today? Maybe not. Thinking too much about the past will keep you stuck there, but I know I learnt from those experiences and mistakes. There have been times in my life when I have had to hit rock bottom before I could face my fear and do what I needed to do.