You don’t need the confidence of a supermodel to be an amazing flirt. All it takes is a little bit of guts, a lot of smiling, and the right attitude.
Whether it’s the cute barista at your local cafe, the hottie you’ve spotted across the bar, or the friend of a friend your mate just introduced you to – follow these seven steps and you’ll nail flirting with anyone.
1. Don’t overthink it.
Firstly, flirting is meant to be fun. Keep it lighthearted by reminding yourself this is not life and death. If the conversation doesn’t end in the outcome you want (ie: a phone number or a date) you can simply smile and move on, ready to try out your moves on someone else – this time with a little bit more experience.
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2. Make eye contact.
If you haven’t been introduced to the object of your affection but you’d like to start a conversation, someone is going to have to walk over to start it. But before one of you does that, make eye contact.
Try this: scan the room, make eye contact, hold it for a split second, look away, then look their way again, this time hold eye contact and smile. If this seems too complicated just make eye contact and smile – the trick here is to hold it for at least two seconds before you look away.
If you don’t notice your target walking over to you at this point, chances are they are a little shy. This is when it’s up to you. Walk over. You’re opening line doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Something like: “Hi. [Pause for their response] How’s your night going?” will do just fine.
3. Find an excuse for light touching.
Don’t underestimate the power of touch to effectively, yet oh so subtly, show a person you’re interested in them. It’s a tried and true flirting method many of us at Mamamia swear by. A little way into the conversation, gently brush their upper arm.