Mummy blogger Sophie Cachia, author of The Young Mummy, has written about the difference having two children, as opposed to one child, can have in a relationship… (Hint: there is no time for anything)
“When it was one child, it was a lot easier to stay in tune,” the 26-year-old wrote for Kidspot. “More time, more energy, more us. Now that there’s two, well, our life is a little more chaotic.”
Sophie’s 25-year-old partner Jaryd Cachia looks after the kids while the mummy blogger is often on the road. She said “some days we’re lucky to do a quick high-five past each other in the hallway.”
The pair – who were married in October, 2015 – welcomed their daughter Florence into the world in January of this year. Their son, Bobby, is turning three this year.
“For the first time – and only fresh into our marriage – I’m seeing how kids can so easily divide parents. In our situation, it’s not malicious and it’s most certainly not intentional … it’s just … happening,” Sophia wrote.
“For the first time in nearly seven years I feel like I’m having to step it up. We’ve gone up a notch in how hard we need to work to make Jaryd and I exist as a couple – and not just as parents.”
The young mummy is snapchatting her labor. Too much information or important documentation of the realities of giving birth?
Top Comments
I don't particularly like this woman and her approach, but agree with her observations in this case and think it can happen even after one child. My husband and I have both discussed this, how we can see how couples fall apart when the kids are so young. You both really need to be willing to talk/work it out at the very least, have patience with each other and forgiving quickly helps too I think.
Her baby is only a few months old, if they keep the communication open and put in the effort, they'll find they are even stronger. Different, but stronger.
I have a six-year-old and I've found it hard enough! Considering having a second and hopeful that the age gap might help, as it's hard to imagine having even less adult time than we do now, even though I know it must me so much easier than two kids under three! The thought of having a second child is quite daunting actually.