In some cultures like Greek, Italian and Croation, giving money as a wedding gift is completely normal and expected.
But it’s now being embraced by many couples looking to recoup some of the cost of their wedding. Instead of setting up gift registries, the bride and groom send details of “honeymoon registries” where guests contribute an amount of money towards the cost of the honeymoon or are requesting on the invitation “cash gifts preferred”.
But how do you know how much to give? And what if your gift is deemed inadequate?
A bride in the US recently sent a Facebook message to a guest asking her to explain why she only gave $100 cash as a wedding gift. The bride complained that she didn’t receive as much cash as she was expecting, leaving her unable to cover the cost of the reception.
Here’s the message:
Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike’s and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn’t expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you’ll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything.
Etiquette expert Anna Mussett told the The Morning Show on Channel Seven that the Facebook post was “100% out of line”. She added, “A wedding is not a cash-grab”.