By LADY CHATTERLY
Just before we got married, my husband lost count of the number of times he was told by his mates to “kiss your sex life goodbye.” Yes. Because obviously he was marrying a woman who was only having sex with him until he put a ring on it and not because hell, she might actually enjoy it. And continue to do so after walking down the aisle.
Thank you very much friends of husband but I can honestly say that no, our sex life didn’t disappear after we got married. It certainly changed though. Life, the very nature of being in a long term relationship and life again, most definitely combine to make sex a little less straight forward than in the early days.
With that in mind, here are some of the different types of married sex I’ve encountered:
1. We got all dressed up and should probably have sex tonight, sex.
You’ve squeezed yourself into the dress you wore for your own engagement party 5 years ago (win) to celebrate a friend’s birthday. He’s ironed a shirt and is wearing a little too much Hugo Boss aftershave. You’ve used up most of your remaining energy reserves just leaving the house, ensuring the babysitter knows what to feed the fickle toddler, how to use the DVD player, where to find the nappies etc etc so the idea of sex isn’t really that attractive when you return home at 11pm. But you have to. You both went to the effort of getting all dressed up, and you’re both a little tipsy. That has to lead to sex. Right?
2. Holiday sex.
Sheets covered with sand, sunscreen smelling, lazy, you’re in another country, in a hotel room, in a king size bed, sex. Sweaty, reminiscent of your honeymoon in Hawaii except there’s a child accompanying you this time, sex. In the pool, in the shower, on the balcony. Twice a day, decadent, cocktail fuelled. Need I say more.