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Announcing your pregnancy is an exciting time, especially if you’ve been holding off telling people for a few months.
Maybe your baby was planned. Maybe it wasn’t. Either way, it’s happening and you’re over the moon. You’ve decided on your announcement and you’re ready to shout it from the rooftops. But what happens when you have a friend or family member struggling with infertility?
Here are some ideas on how to break the news to them without ruining your moment or breaking their hearts.
Avoid breaking the news in a large group
If you know that a friend or family member has been trying for a baby for a long time, announcing your pregnancy in the middle of Christmas dinner might not be the best idea. Taking the couple aside beforehand to break the news gently gives them time to process the information and be happy for you when you make the announcement in front of everyone.
You don’t want the experience of sharing your news with the family to be remembered by her running from the room with tears streaming down her face. Break the news gently and avoid blindsiding her with emotions all at the one time.
Acknowledge how she might be feeling
You have every right in the world to be happy about your pregnancy and deep down your friend is happy for you too. They might just take some time to show it.
Don’t be upset if they react in a way you didn’t expect, it’s a time of mixed emotions.
On one hand they are thrilled for you, but the journey of trying to have a baby when you have fertility issues is draining. It’s emotional, its trying and it’s all consuming. Hearing the news of a baby on the way is no doubt going to remind them of their desire, desperation and struggles.