What would you do if your 14-year-old daughter came to you and told you that she was pregnant?
Have you ever thought through this situation? I hadn’t. And I have a 14-year-old daughter. And this is despite the fact that I when I was her age, teen pregnancy and abortion, wasn’t uncommon. It was just unspoken.
Weirdly, I was already writing this article after seeing a thread on Reddit. You know Reddit? The place that you should absolutely, positively, NEVER read the comments?
The question that was asked there was this:
Do you support her? Do you kick her out? Do you advise abortion? What would be your reaction and why?
Then last night as chance would have it, I sat down and watched my current television obsession, Puberty Blues and wouldn’t you know, the central theme was teenage pregnancy.
Puberty Blues is set in the 70s, a time of free love and freedom. Still, it didn’t have to be set in 1976 for me to relate.In the late eighties, when I was in high school, this was still happening, regularly. Just as I’m sure, it still happens today.
When I was in Year 9, I knew of at least 3 girls who got pregnant and subsequently, had abortions. This number increased the older I became.
One of my good friends at the time was pregnant at 15 and being front and centre, watching her beautiful family implode because of this and the decisions they made on her behalf, was horrendous. I’m not sure they ever quite recovered. Her parents were both totally unprepared for this kind of situation, fully believing that their daughter was still dancing around her bedroom, singing into her hairbrush to Locomotion. They certainly weren’t aware that she was having sex. The worst thing though, was that they both felt like that they had let their daughter down somehow. That it was their fault.
And if you think that your own daughter could or would never be involved in ‘such a thing’, then you need to think again. Peer pressure and the dynamics of teenage relationships are so very complex.