
“Never have I felt SO MUCH RAGE, HATE AND ANGUISH as I have done as a parent.”
I thought I was a shitty parent. I thought everyone was ‘doing’ parenting better than I was, because NO ONE else was saying one damned negative thing.
I’m pretty honest on Facebook about how amazing AND how shitty my mothering journey has been. And EVERY time I share something less than complimentary (only a fraction of the time, I really do love my children and think they are incredible wee people) I get at least 2 private messages and more as direct comments THANKING ME FOR MY HONESTY. Why is this?
Why is it that in a world where more of my peers are parents than not, are we all pretending to each other that it’s high fives, cuddles and sweet dreams 24/7? Why do we only share pictures and stories of the glory and none of the hell?
A LOT of the time parenting sucks. It is seriously time we were open about this.

It’s not all tears in my wine glass; parenting is also awesome and no parent I know would give back their child, but being in charge of a baby is the hardest effing thing on the face of the planet.
It is not the actual tasks involved in parenting that make it so hard; it’s the absolutely exhausting sleep deprivation that sends you totally insane, and the monotony, and the seemingly unending, repetitious feeding/changing/getting baby to sleep, and the realisation that your own needs are so far down the list, and the sadness and futility and depression that this is your life now.
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This is amazing. I've always said this. I've always been blunt about how hard this shit is. If anyone else disagrees, then please come watch my kid! Thank you!
Just what I needed to read. Thank you. My weekend has literally been back-breaking (or bending if I'm slightly less dramatic) with a 2 year old who defies sleep. I've been doagnosed with a post natal depression + mood disordery thing and Im just do frustrated and quick to anger and it makes me feel beyond horrible. So thank you for making me feel like it's not just me. Much love.