There was one morning, a few years back, where I fainted before work.
I woke up on the floor of my bedroom. Rubbed the back of my head. Then called my manager to tell her I was sorry, but I’d missed my bus because I’d fainted and that I was going to be late.
She, being a lovely and rational person, told me to a) not come in and b) not to apologise for passing out.
As ridiculous as that story sounds, it’s not exactly uncommon for me to rush to an apology at the first sign of any inconvenience – even if I’m not to blame.
What would it look like if a man lived like a woman for a day? Probably something a lot like this:
Can’t hear what you’re saying? I’ll say sorry.
Need to ask a question? I’ll say sorry.
Did nothing but stand still as you bumped into me? I’ll definitely say sorry.
And I’m not alone in this, either.
According to a study completed at the University of Waterloo’s Department of Psychology, women have a tendency to bring out the “s” word far more often than men. Not because men are unfeeling cretins who won’t apologise, but because women are generally more inclined to class their behaviour as offensive.
The study found men “have a higher threshold for what constitutes offensive behaviour,” and while there are certainly ~some~ dudes who should lower that threshold by a sizeable degree, I’d argue that almost every woman you encounter probably needs to raise theirs a few clicks.
Firstly, ladies are more likely to try and de-escalate uncomfortable situations:
“Women have been found to be more socially-attuned and motivated to keep harmony in their relationships and therefore may tend to apologise more,” she said.
“Some research has shown that while the typical male response to social stress is a ‘fight or flight’ response, women ‘tend-and-befriend’.”
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