“I don’t like sex, so I should get something out of it.”
This was how one woman – let’s call her Marie – justified charging her partner $50 any time he wanted sex more than twice a week.
But this isn’t a 50-year old mother of seven indulging her over-sexed hubby’s desires. This is a 24-year old, childless, career woman.
And if she can’t “get it up”, well frankly it makes me feel a hell of a lot better about myself.
While the unusual foreplay – “and here’s your change, sir” (naughty wink) – garnered its own moral debate, it unearthed something many female friends were willing to share – albeit in barely audible whispers – with me.
This feisty, young woman had said something out loud that many were holding inside. And every time I told a friend about this article, they’d begin to leak secrets of their own lacklustre libidos.
One, a married mother of three children under five, said if she didn’t “lock in” sex with her husband, she simply wouldn’t ever have sex.
“I’ve got so much on every day, sex just never occurs to me. But if I have it pencilled down somewhere, I can literally tick it off my ‘to do’ list.”
While some pencilled in “date nights” and others received payment for services rendered, the clear front-runner for handling poor sex drives in married couples was “the mercy fuck” – resorting to sex to stave off any further unwanted advances.