Congrats! You’re a mama! Now it’s time to go out and make some mummy friends. What is that I sense? A bit of hesitation? Fear? Dread? As someone who has dealt with social anxiety her entire life, I know all too well that the struggle is real.
I was the kid that was afraid to raise my hand in school and stayed by myself during recess time. I turned crimson red when singled out of a group. Painfully shy, I sought to be invisible.
With age, I have slowly become more comfortable in public settings. It doesn’t mean that I am no longer shy, but I am definitely more confident in conquering my fears.
As a mum, being “out and about” is unavoidable. For the introvert, it is not an easy process. We are constantly in situations where we must interact with people including: the pediatrician, school staff, and other mums at the playground. The term “other mums” may make you want to break out into hives. As I have been doing this parenting thing for over six years now, I will gladly pass on what I have found to be particularly helpful:
1. Start off with a smile and greeting.
If you are awkward, this can be a hard task. As I spent most of my school years just staring at my shoes, I completely understand.
As I have gotten older, I realise that a pleasant demeanor goes a long way; even if you have to fake it at first. You do not necessarily have to tell your whole life story- just share a bit of what you feel comfortable with. People tend to be drawn to those with a sunny disposition. It also proves quite effective in breaking the ice.