I love side-by-side photos but mine are never the “right” way society deems it should be.
You know, on the left I was 14 weeks pregnant. First child. I thought I was huge. HUGE. I was embarrassed at how bloated I looked. I spent time hiding my stomach even though people knew I was pregnant. I even wore spanx to a wedding because I was afraid of how jiggly I looked. I wanted to get to the right size before I celebrated my bump.
I was embarrassed that my husband had this blimp of a pregnant wife and all these people would constantly remind me that I’m gonna have to work hard to go back to my pre-baby body, that I better not eat too much... Now, I look back and that makes me sad.
I see it all the time, women who think their bumps are too small or too big. Who have people constantly commenting on their pregnant bodies. Constantly saying “you’re sooooooo tiny!” Or “you’re soooo huge!” like it’s okay to comment and a growing baby makes it free for all.
And then there's judgement from ourselves on how we are meant to look. The perfect body and the perfect bump that’s aaaalllll bump, but not too big right? (And not too small... otherwise you must surely be starving your baby.)
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By my second pregnancy I got asked, “are you sure it isn’t twins?” Yeah for nine months that second baby has been hiding... No, not twins, but thanks for helping me feel positive about my body at such a vulnerable and hormonal time.