How do you set up your kids for future disappointments?
This week’s winner of iBlog Friday is Kathryn Boyd from Katzrambles. Congratulations Kathryn! Your prize is in the mail!
This week Kathryn talks about her transition from magical mummy who knows everything and fixes everything to human mummy who doesn’t have all the answers and solutions.
At the moment my children are at an age where I can comfort them, fix their problems and provide them answers … but what happens when this is no longer the case?
What happens when their problems can no longer be fixed with a tissue and a milkshake? What happens when they grow up and find out that I’m not perfect, I don’t know everything and I still don’t have life figured out?
Will they be disappointed? Or will they understand that parents, just like other people, are imperfect beings who make mistakes?
And what about the lies? Are we setting our kids up for reality or are we just setting them up to be disappointed?
When little Johnny says he wants to be a doctor when he grows up, what are we supposed to tell him? Do we encourage him and tell him he can be whatever he likes as long as he puts his mind to it or do we smile sweetly and reply “That’s nice darling, but you’re just not smart enough to be a doctor.”
By telling our children that participation is more important than winning and trying hard is more important than results, are we just setting them up to fail? What happens when they head off to embrace the big wide world on their own and they realise that society favours winners and rewards results – and as hard as they try, they may still not get what they want!
As a parent you are confronted with such conflicting ideas and advise on a daily basis and often wonder how to navigate your way through this minefield called parenting.