If sex and menopause aren’t two words you’ve thought about in the same sentence before, today's the day. There’s a big misconception that sex lives after the age of 40 are as empty and featureless as the desert, complete with the occasional tumbleweed.
But when I turned 40 a few years ago, I definitely didn’t feel like I was on a downward slope to sexual irrelevancy. And when I look around at the gorgeous, strong and sexy women around me in their 40s, 50s and beyond, it’s clear that menopause doesn’t have to mean ‘game over’ for your sex life.
In fact, many women report having the best sex of their lives in their mid-life years through peri and menopause.
It’s one of life’s cruel ironies that as we age and feel more comfortable and confident in our own skin, lowering hormone levels and the impact of menopause can mean sex might feel awkward, uncomfortable and even downright painful.
Let’s unpack the essentials for sex in menopause – the changes you might notice in your own body, and what exactly you need to know about it.
The reality of vaginal dryness in menopause.
Vaginal dryness is a reality for many women in menopause. As our levels of oestrogen lower, the vaginal walls thin and become less elastic, and natural lubrication reduces, meaning you can experience dryness, itchiness and in some cases, pain during intercourse (which certainly ain’t sexy).
The good news is vaginal dryness doesn’t need to spell the end of sex. Use lubricant during sex, and consider seeking out a moisturiser designed for this delicate area. I recommend Dr Wolff’s V-san Moisturising Cream, which is a hormone-free cream designed to instantly combat vaginal dryness, and alleviate any itching, burning and discomfort.