Joan Price is 71, she describes herself as a ‘wrinkly sex kitten’ and walks around with a tote that says ‘This Bag is Full of Sex Toys’.
It usually contains her shopping – but Joan does review sex toys on her website and blog. The bag is bit of shock treatment for those of us who just can’t deal with the concept of older people getting it on.
Joan’s mission started when she was 57 and fell in love with a 64-year-old man. “I was having hot sex and I couldn’t find a book that captured the sexual exhilaration we were having. So I wrote one.”
Now Joan is on a mission to tell the world about senior sex. And when they stick their fingers in their ears and go la-la-la-la-PLEASE STOP, she throws the yuck factor back in their face, asking “when do you want to retire your genitals?”
"We need to face the fact that when we look at wrinkly silver-haired people walking down the street you have no idea about what they’re doing behind closed doors."
The CEO of Alzheimers Australia, Maree McCabe, says a loud and proud exchange about senior sex is needed.
"The concept of an older couple in their 80s holding hands or kissing one another on the cheek is considered to be a beautiful thing," she says. "In contrast, the concept of the same elderly couple having sex tends to make people uncomfortable."
She believes the silence and stigma about sex is "causing a lot of guilt, depression and anxiety in relationships where one has dementia and families need to hear. This conference is all about getting over the ick and the la-la-la-la-la-la-la."
Her message: if you have ageing parents, get your fingers out of your ears.
Maree forced her own children to listen up by asking them "What would you do if I was in aged care and you got a call from a manager saying I was having sex?"
Like many of us they reeled and said they never wanted to get that call.
"I told them to tell the manager that's none of their business."
Sex kitten Joan says there are a cocktail of concerns in her generation. They range from not-quite-hard penises to a desire for the new and kinky. Getting older can be liberating, she says.