It would be easy to call Nikki Butler crazy.
She did just agree to marry convicted heroin smuggler Scott Rush, and they plan to get married in the Balinese jail where he’s living out his life sentence.
For those of us on the outside, saying ‘yes’ to a man who gets down on one knee and has to reach between bars to ask for your hand in marriage seems like total madness.
Nikki’s a married, 38-year-old banker from London with two kids. She’s getting a divorce so that she can marry Scott, who is 28. She says this just feels right. He says they were meant to be. She says she wouldn’t want to be with anyone else in the world, he says he’s so lucky to have her. It’s a beautiful love story — except for the part where he will probably die in the same cell where he proposed.
Scott is one of the infamous ‘Bali Nine,’ arrested on drug trafficking charges in 2005, sentenced to death, and then on appeal, sentenced to life. He met Nikki once – a week before his arrest. They lost touch (because he was in jail – a bigger reason than most not to call after a date). When Nikki saw Scott’s face on TV years later, she decided to contact him. Romance happened, though it really is hard to believe how it could.
Now you’re thinking: What kind of woman accepts a proposal from a convicted drug-smuggler? What kind of a life could she possibly have with him? What is she thinking, what is she doing, what is she signing her kids up for?
You want to call Nikki Butler crazy, I know. But wait.
Nikki is not the first woman to fall for an incarcerated man, and she won’t be the last. Convicted killers, drug dealers, thieves, wife-beaters, and thugs often receive a lot of fan mail from women who want to get romantically involved with them.
Women fall in love with men behind bars all the time — especially in America, which has 2.3 million prisoners and several websites that help women who specifically want to meet men in jail — and the reasons are many and varied.