I have a confession to make. Sometimes I will iron one of my husband’s shirts.
So what do you think of me now? Have I let down feminism? Am I “slave”, a “1950s housewife”, an idiot, downtrodden? Do you feel rage toward me? Do you need to set me straight?
Or do you think you have no idea about my relationship with my husband from that one sentence? Or about how often I iron those shirts, why I do it, what he does for me and how happy we are?
The Daily Telegraph reports that last week 22-year-old Sydney mum Maddie asked a closed Facebook mum’s group about sandwiches. More specifically she asked the 26,000 strong North Shore Mums group:
I would love to hear what other mums make their hubbies for lunch and snacks throughout the work day. We are getting over sandwiches.
Enter drama. Judgement for everything including using the word “hubbie”. Name calling. Accusations of being a “slave”, a “1950s housewife”. Nastiness. Passive aggressiveness.
Perhaps the most unsettling, apart from not giving Maddie the heads up about pesto pasta and tuna as a sandwich alternative, was women telling other women what they should do in their relationship as though they have been bestowed with some kind of all-knowing higher-being insight: “You should pack him nothing for lunch …”.
There were women who came to Maddie’s defence and Maddie came to her own explaining that her husband did housework, cooked dinners “every second night” and attended to their baby in the middle of the night.