“My wife wanted an open marriage." 8 people on why their marriage ended.

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“But…why?” is the question often asked after hearing about a marriage breakdown. It’s a question that goes unanswered as the truth is usually too painful to discuss.

Redditors have offered us a sneak-peek in to their deepest, most private reasons for ending a marriage.

1. An open marriage that… isn’t.

“My wife wanted an open marriage. She has had multiple boyfriends/sexual partners. As soon as I try to partake in the open marriage, she flips out. Turns out the open marriage was only supposed to work one way.”

2. Changing after marriage.

“He became a totally different person after we got married. He became very controlling and manipulative…I didn’t want to go home because I didn’t know if I was walking into Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde.”

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3. Abusive behaviour.

“She threw a pot of boiling water at me. It was thrown over our five year old son. She threw it at me because I was paying more attention to my son than her, I had just gotten home from work and he asked me to play the Nintendo with him.”


4. Porn addiction.

“I’m not against porn, but I discovered that he literally spent every waking hour that he wasn’t working copying porn DVDs. Six to eight hours a day of copying porn. And he’d call in sick easily once a week to spend more time with the porn.” What’s worse, her husband had a $30,000 credit card debt from various porn websites and online shops.

5. Getting pregnant during an affair.

“After about a month of her ignoring me I found out through a mutual friend that she had been screwing her boss and had gotten pregnant and that’s why she left.”


6. Shared tragedy.

“My wife stopped loving me after our daughter died.”

7. Committing too young.

“My ex and I got married very young. I was 15 and he was 17. We were together 11 years and loved each other, but realised we weren’t letting each other grow up. Staying a teenager forever isn’t an option when you’ve got kids. It’s been five years and we still care about each other. We’ve both moved on, he’s a great dad. He and his fiancee are my youngest sons godparents and they are having my goddaughter in January.”

8. Too much friendship, not enough sex.

“After four years without sex we knew it was dead. We had two great kids but were just two roommates raising kids together.”

What are some other real reasons for ending a marriage?