I am that mother I have a son who is now 23. Has adhd. Special needs. Global developmental delay. He been on medication most of his life. And it hit Chrisis point at 14.. and so he live away from home we visited every weekend. Then my son turned 18 being looked after fell through not his fault I might add. And has been home ever since... And to cut a long story short it does get better with help. And he your son will get better with age. And maybe medication for his adhd. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Why cant you leave the house . And have the kids of a weekend. Why is it always the man. You have made your decision you dont want the marrige. Well you go why are you waiting for him to go. Because that's easier for you. He clearly doesnt want to go so maybe your gonna have to.