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rachel k July 20, 2021

You have my utmost sympathy and understanding. My daughters are now 25 and 23, and I can still remember the misery, despite wanting both these babies. I'd thought I'd be a happy, glowing mum to be. I was in and out of hospital with dehydration with my first, and thought when trying for my second that surely I wouldn't be this unlucky again. Ha! I was vomiting up to and during labour with both. 

Hang in there Kelly. It's really hard but it's worth it. Hugs!

rachelkeyte May 22, 2021

@rachelkeyte (continued) When my kids started school, they had inherited my (lack of) athletic ability and it seemed the culture around that hadn't changed, so I started scheduling things like dental and medical appointments to coincide with sporting events.

I never just let my kids off things just because they didn't enjoy them or weren't the best, but there's no benefit to exposing them to humiliation and bullying.

rachelkeyte May 22, 2021

Absolutely agree. Not excelling at sport is different to being poor at maths & English. When my kids were in primary school we were told at a parent info night one year to tell our kids not to discuss their academic prowess with others as it made the kids who struggled feel bad. I told my child's teacher I totally support that but if you stink at sport it's out there for everyone to see and kids and even teachers (particularly PE and sport teachers) are nasty af to kids who are uncoordinated or slow.

School sports were torture for me. I walked to school, ran and rode my bike in my own time, but I was slow and uncoordinated which would have been fine if everyone, teachers included, were taught that we all have different abilities and that no-one should be bullied about their weaknesses.  

rachelkeyte December 26, 2020

@cat agreed. Everyone has something that might possibly make us a potential expense to the health system (and being fat is not one of those things anyway!). What about people who smoke, or who don't wear seat belts or helmets? Thin people who live on Macca's? Football or netball players with bad knees? I don't begrudge my tax dollars to any of those people who might need health care at some point. Human beings all have value and deserve health care.

rachelkeyte May 27, 2020

So good to see justice served - or at least a portion of it. No way was there any excuse or room for misunderstanding here.  They're was no way she couldn't have known what would probably have happened if the police had turned up.

Rachel Keyte October 25, 2019

Does anyone happen to know if the products are cruelty free? I can never work that out for sure by googling.

Rachel Keyte October 11, 2019

Agreed - don't even feel like you have to wear something you are physically or psychologically uncomfortable in. Well, unless it's for actual safety, like a seat belt lol. Another one here who hasn't worn jeans for years.

Rachel Keyte October 11, 2019

Not only were you fat shamed, you were also concern trolled. People who fat shame under the guise of concern are still bullies, even if they genuinely think they are acting out of care. They are still stepping on and over your boundaries.

I suggest reading this amazing blog, and type 'concern' into the search function. You will get plenty of material about concern trolling, and even some suggestions of how to handle it if you want to (although IMO block and delete like you did was perfect. Not that my opinion should matter).

In the end, the only thing you can really tell by looking at someone's size is your own level of weight bias. Healthy and unhealthy bodies come in all shapes and sizes.

Rachel Keyte October 11, 2019

Agreed! Love Annie!

Rachel Keyte August 30, 2019

The Body Shop Hemp Rescue Balm! My heels, hands and nails miss it so much! :'(

Rachel Keyte December 30, 2016

Oh honey :'( that hurts and my heart goes out to you. But as far as not wanting to lose them - it kind of looks like you already have, even if you keep catching up. Regardless of who it is who has changed (it may be them, it may be you, or all of you), the end result is the same - they are hurting you and not being real friends.

Of course it never hurts to examine your own behaviour to make sure you're not being too self absorbed and not paying equal attention to your friends' successes, but if you know in your heart of hearts that you have done nothing to deserve this, then maybe it's time to let them go. I know it's heartbreaking and I'm sorry. But some friendships don't last forever, even the ones that were great for a long time.

All the best and I hope you go from strength to strength and find some more real friends.

Rachel Keyte June 4, 2016

The difference is, at a vegan event, there is still something everyone can eat, whether or not they enjoy it. If there is no vegan food at an event, then the vegan can't eat.

Rachel Keyte June 4, 2016

OMG people would turn down a wedding invite because the menu didn't include meat/dairy/eggs? For crying out loud, it's one meal! Get yourselves some maccas on the way home if you're getting withdrawals!

It's not like she's insisting on having only one particular food type - all curry, or all salad etc. Veganism is often an ethical choice - it doesn't say in this whether this is the case, but I suspect so because otherwise why would it be so important to her! If that's the case, we can hardly expect her to want a menu with animal products in it.

Having said that (and it's too late now!) but I don't think putting it on the invitation is necessary. I was at a vegan wedding a few years ago, and the food was awesome. People might just need to see they're not just eating mungbeans.

Rachel Keyte May 5, 2016

Yes, exactly - Patrick was really high maintenance and often had her hanging on a string! Leo is adorable, OMG I'll have him if she doesn't want him!

Rachel Keyte April 30, 2016

Totally not OK with it, but I differ to you in that I really didn’t like Patrick – most of the time I thought he was a smug prick. Leo is the one, and OMG if she won’t have him I will!

Rachel Keyte April 17, 2016

Just don't leave them alone together if you still want them to have a relationship. If she starts trying to trash your choices in front of him, then maybe it's time to reevaluate whether you want contact with her, OR you could talk to your son about how everyone has different beliefs and it's a shame grandma can't respect yours.

I find it almost amusing that she could be worried about your son's health and then feed him a hot dog of all things!

Rachel Keyte August 8, 2015

My heart goes out to you Lisa, no judgement here. And I only have two! I totally get the feeling of being worth less than a pile of dirt to the people you're giving your whole life for. And they'll never know how badly they've behaved towards you until they have their own who do exactly the same thing!

Rachel Keyte August 8, 2015

Honestly, I think sometimes losing it and screaming like a banshee is what saves me from getting physical!

Rachel Keyte July 10, 2015

I prefer the taste of skim in my coffee too, even though with straight milk I much prefer full cream. People laugh at the person who orders a slice of cheesecake and a skim milk cap, saying "oh yeah, leaving the fat out of your milk will make all the difference!" but it's just a personal taste preference, nothing to do with health.

Rachel Keyte July 1, 2015

Entertainment??? I really wanted to put that word all in capitals but not sure if that's bad form. But I am screaming the word in my head. He thinks hearing about such hideous, horrific things is entertainment??? What a sick bastard!