I so relate to this. I’m always the fattest person at the table when we go out. I hate having photos taken and recently when I offered to take the photo for a friend who is moving away another friend snapped a unflattering one of me and said shed post it if I didn’t agree to be in the group picture. I said fine gave the phone to the waitress and moved to the back of the group not in the foreground where my seat was. I requested she delete the unflattering pic which she’d posted in our group message. This girl is going to be silently ghosted/ unfriended by me which is sad because we’ve all been friends for about 40 years and that sort of manipulative behaviour was just wrong!