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ella27 October 19, 2021

I so identify with that sentence of yours....I was constantly braced for combat. That was day to day life for me for 14 years. No he never hit me but he hit walls, furniture even his motorbike.  He would not talk to me for days or worse take off and leave me with 2 little children for unknown lengths of time. People assume you need to be physically abused to be afraid but you're right.....the threat of violence is it's own stress. Not knowing what mood someone will be in when they walk in the door . When my youngest was 3, i found the courage to weather the storm and leave him. Not easy but the best thing I ever did because no one should have to live with someone they're afraid of. 

ella27 October 18, 2021

I started menopause in my late 40's and by 52 I'd been having frequent hot flushes and poor sleep for years along with other symptoms I didn't realise we're attributed to menopause.  None of those alternate treatments worked including black cahosh  and thankfully a wonderful female GP said enough and discussed HRT with me including printing out information on studies and research results. We decided on a 5 year treatment plan and it saved my sanity.  I've never had a hot flush again and I regained good sleep patterns and energy.  Now in my 60's and off it for 7 years I'm still fit and healthy and sleep well. I don't understand why females are expected to suffer through all their stages of life unnecessarily.  Cognitive therapy  ?? It's not in our heads !! It's real symptoms.  

ella27 October 17, 2021

Congrats for achieving so much in your life despite such a difficult beginning.  It's hard for adults to be carers let alone a young teenage girl also trying to get through school. You are amazing 

ella27 October 14, 2021

Really relate to this. Exact same scenario as a teenager wanting to have sex, I made my own appt to a gp to get the pill and couldn't imagine discussing it with my mother. I'd just turned 17.  I was very open with my own children to the extent of buying condoms for them once they showed interest in the opposite sex and being open to answering any questions from when they were kids. I vividly remember trying to explain in simple terms things like Virgin, gay, lesbian, screw. Hats off to you mum that your 16year old daughter is happy to discuss such a momentous moment in her young life ! That's a priceless gem to cherish. 

ella27 October 6, 2021

You clearly don't have dry skin. If I don't put moisturiser on I feel it . My skin feels tight, dry and gets flaky.  Ditto hands. I can and do skip cleansing if I don't have make-up on, just a washer or bamboo loofa in the shower water. Being lazy and low maintenance I use one product (cetaphil lotion) for cleansing,make-up removal and moisturising.  Also great for shaving and your legs stay moisturised.  Tip for hands is to just put lotion on the backs not palms. 

ella27 October 3, 2021

It always pisses me off in movies when couples do full tongue kissing when they just wake up in the morning.  Who does that ? Just gross. 

ella27 August 29, 2021

OK you lost me at the incredibly kind people who are so nice to someone like me.......

You just emphasised the gap. Very very very rich people who can afford to be kind .  Plus you put yourself down in that statement.  Anyone can be kind 

ella27 July 27, 2021

I see the suggestions  for using retinol frequently in these articles.  Is it supposed to be a problem free product as I had a bad experience after being given a script for a retinol cream to use as a moisturiser? This was from a skin specialist.  My skin went crazy, itchy red and blotchy and I had to stop using it. My skin took a long time to recover and has been very sensitive since.  I would never touch it again. Love to hear feedback.  

ella27 June 28, 2021

No those points still don't make sense.  How do your bits get air flow under the covers ? Also you can wear breathable pjs surely ? Temp regulation is achievable by wearing cool light pjs. Do the naked sleepers wash their sheets every day ? Otherwise euwww.......not healthy due to bacteria thriving on those sheets 

ella27 May 30, 2021

I get sick of hearing  about "needing a village to raise a baby" . Petty sure its a millennial thing and part of expecting needs to be met with little effort. Being a parent requires effort and friends should be just that. Having my first baby before social media existed I expected to focus on being a mum for a while but friends dropping in were welcomed as such and were a welcome relief with no strings attached. The unwritten rule was not to stay too long and bring something to eat. Win win for everyone 

It's made to be too complicated now 

ella27 May 30, 2021

Congrats to all new mums for making whatever decision works best for their family and themselves.  Ultimately a baby that's fed ,contented and loved is the goal. I'm grateful i was able to easily and happily breastfeed both my babies with good support but there are some decisions I made myself to enhance my experience.  I refused to use a breast pump (personally think they are gross and hard work) so if I wanted to go out or needed a break I just made up a formula bottle. Easy and no issues for my bubs. I intuitively allowed both my babies to start weaning when they were ready (one did it sooner than the other) without following any rules. Maybe a nudge here and there. Either way the whole experience for me was stress free. My ultimate advice ......follow your instincts 

ella27 May 9, 2021

Nope never had a problem with fringes and had them most of my life. I trimmed my own too. Just did it with damp hair and a well lit mirror and finished by doing little vertical feather cuts to soften it. Practice makes perfect I guess and my hair is very straight so that probably helps as I never have to style it. I can imagine curly hair would be harder for sure but I disagree with the idea that self trimming is a no no 

ella27 April 24, 2021

I have absolutely no idea why you would choose to do this. I understand accidents.  It would be a lot of work initially with little joy . I had my first born for 3 wonderful years to totally enjoy before my second was born. I was then totally ready to enjoy the second. " ripping the bandaid off " makes it all sound like a chore not a pleasure 

ella27 March 18, 2021

Just be wary about using something like retinol slavishly without testing it first. I was prescribed it by a skin specialist as a moisturiser and my skin reacted badly and took a long time to recover. Over 10 years later I have super sensitive skin now as a result. 

ella27 February 24, 2021

I'm liking this system.  At the very least it made me laugh . Damn I wish I'd  known of it back when I was a busy working mum of young children.  Perspective is everything and no guilt to cancelling. 

ella27 February 1, 2021

As the mother of boys I always lectured and demonstrated my anti violence beliefs and that females should be treated with respect and caring of their feelings then witnessed many times my own young son being pinched and pushed by little daughters of my friends not addressed . How about we teach allourchildren, all genders not to hurt others. I now tell my granddaughter to be considerate of the feelings of boys as well as her girlfriends as everyone is culpable to generating "hurt" 

ella27 January 31, 2021

I will never touch retinol again. I used a retinol based moisturiser suggested by my skin specialist many years ago and over a few weeks the effects led to wide spread burning,  itching and redness which after ceasing use , took a year for my face to recover from. Lasting effects are super sensitive skin now and I still have a couple of areas which react to most products. 

I cringe when I see it's use suggested so casually.  

ella27 January 26, 2021

Allowing free speech doesnt necessarily mean rewarding and giving a platform to hate and bigotry 

ella27 January 21, 2021

Chips and snacks in the bottom drawers ?? I'm  sure the kids love the pantry. Help yourself ......I'm busy labelling 😂😂

ella27 January 12, 2021

This article  really resonated with me. I feel that the inner peace and contentment I've craved all my life is just always elusive no matter how full my life is. I look around and see I have it all but am never at peace with myself. Very thought provoking read.