While it is very sad and I absolutely sympathise, I can’t help wondering why the family didn’t postpone the funeral. We never really know when death will come and, believe me, I know the feeling of not being able to say goodbye. Pre-covid, there were no flights from Brisbane to Sydney on the Saturday when the nursing home rang me to say my mother wasn’t ‘good’. She died early the next morning a few hours before I flew into Sydney. So, I get it. We had the funeral 12 days after Mum died, to allow friends and family to make their travel arrangements. The funeral was so important for me, to allow myself to grieve and say the goodbye that I never got to say in person.