Perhaps rather than looking at this as a financial matter, you consider it as a trust issue. If he kept a secret from you, would it be the secret or the fact that he kept it secret that would bother you the most?

Gosh you're a good writer 

@kyliemedcalf133 sorry I wasn't clear perhaps - the author says she knows very little about food but is a foodie. It's this point I'm questioning. Surely a foodie is someone who knows about food!

I'm bemused by the comment that you're a foodie but you can't cook. Do others share this view - ie you can call yourself a foodie if you know very little about food? 

First bub was 4.92kg, second was 5.62kg. Both vaginally delivered, and induced and with pain meds. The second was approximately the size of a 4 month old!

 I'm constantly surprised at how much people spend on themselves and on food, and then say they think they manage their money well. I think there are a few opportunities to have fun but save some money for this person.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story. 

@mamamia-user-482898552 yes, I think so unfortunately. My mother did - different generation as she's 76, but she's not unique 

Really enjoyed this article, very relatable 

This was a lovely read, thanks so much Holly

Thank you for sharing your story, which was difficult enough to read, let alone experience. Daniel sounds like an incredibly lucky person to have you in his life. I hope he brings you and your family lots of joy, and that the hard times are not always so hard. Much love and respect to you.

Thank you. We need more stories which are so intelligently and beautifully written, which shed light on our broader community that we may not be familiar with. One of the best articles I have read in ages, thank you so much. 

Michaela Kate Dunn

Or maybe they have genes that have resulted in good skin?

Thank you for sharing your story. Does anyone have any suggestions on what we could say that would be more helpful?

@ellaumbrella I'm so sorry for your loss

This is similar to my experience and I completely understand the distrust of parents who say they don't know why. In my case I chose to let them back in my life when I became a mother. Not an easy choice, and I still struggle 12 years after letting them back in. Incidentally both my siblings have no contact at all. My parents definitely know why.

This is so lovely, reading it made me very happy. It's really important we have outlets to raise parenting issues, but it's equally important that we can raise parenting successes. We perhaps don't do enough of the later.

My sister is 10 months and 1 day older than me. And I'm a twin, so our mother gave birth to 3 babies in 10 months. Fun times!