@judymac, and that’s the very thing most nurses rarely do: care for themselves. I speak from experience.
Stop it! Just stop it! You’re torturing yourself needlessly if your husband is sincere. You have a choice to make: you can keep rehashing this endlessly and ruin the rest of your life and, by extension, the lives of your husband and children if you have them, or you can come to your senses.
Well, comments like Bindi’s are a sure way to bring healing and peace. With her level of privilege, I simply refuse to cast her as a victim. If she chooses to spend time thinking about how terribly she’s been wronged, that’s on her. I’m in complete agreement with the family member who said it’s a private matter. Her only reason for posting that comment, was to put on the victim’s cloak of ‘poor me’.
My parents died within five months of each other. The shock and grief were overwhelming at the time. But I was 62 and a lot more equipped in every way than two teenage girls.
@lizbette, so would you stop travelling in a motor vehicle because people have died in road accidents? Not all men behave badly and those who do are in the minority.
My husband retired far too young at 56 and regretted having done so. However, he found an interest in the Ulysses Club and made new friendships with men with a shared love of motorbikes. I continued working for another 10 years and retired at 66. I’ve now been retired for nine years and we’ve never been as close as we are now. We’ve been married 53 years and life is just so settled and comfortable now. While that may sound boring to some, neither of us are in particularly good health, so it suits us.
@jen89 my husband was incredibly supportive of my studying and career. He did his share of housework and childcare, so they’re not all bad.
There must be something wrong with me.I’ve been through the pasta necklaces, second hand junk from the Mothers’ Day stall at school, the handmade cards, all of that. I loved it! As I was a nurse for most of my son’s childhood, there were many years I was at work, but we made it a great day anyway.
As I understand it the legal position on this is clear. An engagement rings is a gift given in contemplation of marriage. If the marriage doesn’t occur, the woman needs to return the ring. However, if the marriage does occur, the contract has been fulfilled, so the ring belongs to the woman.
I tried this diet and the weight literally fell off! However, I was concerned about the lack of vitamins and minerals in the diet. As a big eater of fruit and vegetables, I missed them and found the diet to be a bit boring after a while.
In no way am I diminishing the beliefs of any religion, but I wish someone could give me a convincing answer as to why this self denial is necessary. I was raised a Christian and from a small child never understood why one Christian religion forbade the eating of meat on Fridays. I knew that it was because they believe Christ was crucified on a Friday, but it didn’t make sense when I was 10, and it makes less sense now, although I believe it’s no longer a thing.
When I was a kid in the 50s, there was a very popular song called ‘Changing of the Guard’. One line went: ‘The Royal Standard in the breeze will tell you if their majesties are there to watch the changing of the guard.’ When we were in London, my husband and I went to Buckingham Palace to watch this spectacle. As we walked through Green Park, the palace came into view and the Royal Standard was flying. I told my husband that the Queen was at home.
How could you put Turkish Delight on the bottom tier?! Seriously, how could you?! I adore Turkish Delight and I know I’m not Robinson Crusoe because whenever a chocolate selection is put out, I always have to fight for the Turkish Delight.
@chrissyinthemiddle, message me in Facebook Messenger. Elaine Irvine, is the name I go by on Facebook. I’m the one whose profile pic is a Newcastle Knights quilt. I can then put you in touch with Anthony.
@chrissyinthemiddle, that’s great to hear. Kevin Donnelly is also a very wise and clearsighted guy. I’m sure you’ll enjoy the book. Anthony shares all of his articles with me via email. He writes for The Australian, The Daily Telegraph, Quadrant and the Spectator Magazine. I can just see the left wingers rolling their eyes. 😉😊
@chrissyinthemiddle, one of my dearest friends is Dr Anthony Dillon, one of Australia’s top Aboriginal academics. Anthony has copped plenty of overt racism throughout his life and one of my favourite ‘Anthonyisms’, is: ‘Offence cannot be given, it can only be taken.’ Having experienced more than his share of racism during his life, Anthony simply refuses to allow idiots to control his emotions. His chief bugbear is people seeing racism where none exists and this phenomenon seems to be becoming more and more popular.
I can’t believe the pressure people put on themselves when they plan a wedding. Your wedding shouldn’t be about ‘perfection’, it should be about the joining together of two people who love each other and want to show their commitment to friends and family. It’s not a competition.
The most concerning thing to me in this whole sorry business is what Peter van Onselen said on Channel 10 news last night. He said that the allegations were made public by a journalist who didn’t consult Christian Porter before publishing those allegations. In no world is this acceptable.
I was forced to place my parents into a nursing home because I lived two hours drive away and worked full time. My sister lived on the other side of the country. I believed the care they got was good and my mother enjoyed her time there. Mostly because she hated housework and cooking and in the nursing home, she didn’t have to do either one. My father had severe dementia, so we never knew how he felt.
I have to say that I’m not the slightest bit surprised at the reasoning of some of the husbands. For the last five, 10, 15 years, hundreds, if not thousands of women have been appearing on reality shows having spent thousands of dollars changing their faces and bodies. Some men now expect that if a girl doesn’t possess the big boobs, slim legs and hips and perfect, white toothed smile, she doesn’t care about what men want. She’s selfish for not realising that her physical imperfections are her fault, and if she had any consideration for the feelings of this type of male, she’d rush out and change herself to make him happy.