It is amazingly hard and heartbreaking. I lost both my old men in 2020 (as if the pandemic wasn’t enough!) one at the start of the year and the other at towards the end. One got sick so suddenly and passed away, and whilst it was shocking, we really didn’t have to make any decision about it. But my second boy, he was getting weaker and weaker, similar to your situation. I didn’t want to have him suffer, but equally, if he was still happy and had quality of life, then I couldn’t make that decision.
I think that this is so amazing! My ex-husband and I similarly get along and are trying really hard to make this about the kids. BUT, it took a lot of hard work. We have been separated for three years and have only recently gotten much better at this. It takes a lot of work and a lot of arguments (queue me screaming at him as he was driving down the street one morning) and much putting of ego aside. I totally understand why this can’t work for many people. It is weirdly easier to continue to be angry. And both partners need to be 100% on board. But it is definitely worth the hard work.
This was absolutely me - the thing that helped was seeing my GP and a psychologist and being diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder. Until that point I had no idea I’d been self medicating with alcohol, but it was the only thing that quietened my mind. I now have the very occasional glass of wine but I don’t need it anymore to help me relax/switch off my brain. Hope this helps - best of luck with your journey around alcohol
Can’t wait to watch!!