Not rude to ask just like it's not rude to (calmly) refuse. Like with all things it matters how you go about it.
@azzuri Thank you, Azzuri.
@laura__palmer Both options have privileges in their own way. But to say you find it easy? That's okay. Some people find some things easier to do. That happens. To say others find it easy without knowing them, their life, their body, their brain, their kids, ther chores, their family? This is not okay.
@howtoexplain very well said. Love it.
2. My dad was sick of me using his Nokia to play Bounce and look up horoscopes on PocketNews!
I got a phone when I was starting high school. It was an old Nokia phone off eBay that my dad got me, prepaid plan. I absolutely loved it. This was about..2009-2010. Few reasons why my parents got me this; 1. I was starting HS and although it was on the same campus, they felt they needed a way to contact me especially as sometimes picks ups for bus for after school activities had gone wrong once or twice. It also helped that for year 7 at least (before I moved schools for year 8) that phones had to be turned off in bag or turned into the office. Not even allowed during break (Private School). (1/2)
I feel this way when it comes to dating and they ask how it's going; (do i have a partner/gf/bf yet? No? Why not???) and then jump into "Oh when you meet the right person, you'll change your mind," which can be said for many things including having children.
To anyone dealing with the same, I encourage people to eventually deal with your issues. Be it therapy, hobbies or friendships.
(2/2)But I suspect I'll always carry what happened with me in some way. Being a Motherless daughter who's mother died before 18 (or at it) hits different If you saw death, even more so. The amount of things you miss out on that everyone takes for granted are infinite.
I lost my mother at 16. Well, I was turning 17 that year but it was age 16. I saw it happen and I was close to her.
I have mild ptsd from seeing a heart attack offset from possible pneumonia. It was not pretty and we were close, I lived with just her full time.
It's been 7 years, I often have to bottle my grief myself because it hits too deep, especially with the ptsd. I get better in some ways, some days and when I can actually see my therapist it helps.
But I suspect I'll always carry what happened with me in (1/2)