@mumofboys I think happy mum, happy kids. I think sacrificing yourself for your kids is necessary and unavoidable, but when you become miserable because of it, it had negative implications. I admire this mums ability to self care and also be a great mum while she’s with her kids.
This is so sad 😭. He sounds like a gentle soul and there was no reason to treat him so badly and cause his death. I hope that justice is served. The offices involved used extreme, unnecessary force.
Beautifully written. Reminds me of my narcissistic ex from years ago: the gaslighting, the sulking and manipulation, the hollow promises to lure me back in once I’d worked up the courage to leave him. Glad you moved on.
@james b “these people” Is quite derogatory and your comment lacks compassion for a marginalised, disadvantaged group. I’m guessing you are a white male? Perhaps sit back and listen to the voices of those suffering and try to reflect on your own privilege.
I did feel the title was a bit judgemental but then again it is the reason why I read it. I don’t think the article was judgemental but as a mum with kids from two different relationships I think society judges you as defective if you don’t have a nuclear family. It’s the whole “she’s got two children to two different fathers” with eyebrows raised as if you are a spectacle/ failure/ slut. It’s a form of slut shaming really.
Similar story here but my partner never had any assets. The line about him trying to “destroy me” is eerily familiar. Mine did it through our child. You feel dramatic saying “he’s trying to destroy me” but that’s exactly what it feels like. I ignored my gut instincts for 9 years (our whole relationship) because why wouldn’t I want to be with a handsome, charming, flattering successful man that seemingly adores me?
I have to say that unless you are a mum to a child with additional needs, particularly a boy with autism and high support needs, along with being the mother of multiple children, you don’t know the struggle. If she just had her adopted son she could probably devote her life to his care. But having multiple children to care for would be a mountain to climb every day. I think her monetising her “good deed” of adopting a child with additional needs was wrong, but i have sympathy for her. She clearly didn’t know how hard it would be.
My brother is in a similar situation. Grew up in a loving family but is now addicted to drugs and believes the conspiracy theories talked about recently on mamamia.... I have thought recently that he is possibly autistic with adhd. It’s a long bow to draw but I’ve recently found out that several family members are autistic, including myself. I’m not saying that autism causes addiction but new research suggests that being autistic with average or above average intelligence, does put people at risk of addiction, especially coupled with adhd. It would be a very complex relationship but no doubt struggling with relationships and social interactions would play a part. bullying, stigmatisation, and other negative environmental factors would also play into it. it’s probably a seemingly random comment but it gives me hope that if my brother got a diagnosis, he might be able to get the right support that he needs, instead of having to self medicate...
The argument that you don’t want to be vaccinated or vaccinate your kids because it might cause autism (which is false) is so offensive to autistic people. Like you’d rather risk getting a deadly disease than have autism?
I had a similar (non covid) experience years ago with my ex. I left him because he was cheating but we were both unhappy. I was hurt by the cheating but I was happy the relationship was over. The more painful and difficult thing was my daughter having a new stepmom before I had a chance to even grieve the relationship.