But from personal experience 'The Work' has been absolutely life changing. After a decade of antidepressants and therapy I wasn't really getting much better. Stuck on the mouse wheel of anxiety & depression, I was repeating the same behaviour and feeling extremely stuck. I'm still taking the medication and doing the therapy, but 'The Work' as suggested by the The Holistic Psychologist has completely changed my life, and offered me a life line out of dark, unhappy place that I was beginning to think I was going to be stuck in forever. Medication and therapy just wasn't enough for me.

I don't think The Work is the problem, but perhaps the way we often approach it? If approached with self-compassion and forgiveness and an acceptance that it's ok if we don't manage to do it all, it's really powerful. We just need to be gentle with ourselves and keep doing our best (and also be gentle with ourselves when we realise we haven't been gentle with ourselves!!).

Brene, Glennon and Nicole form The Holistic Psychologist all STRONGLY advocate for self compassion. None of them suggest if you are still struggling you aren't working hard enough or are doing something wrong.  They are just suggesting different ways for people to feel better - suggesting more options.   And that's what it drills down to, we all need to be encouraged to find the combination of treatments that works for us - so we can all start to feel better.