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jobakerandco April 9, 2024

The letter could have been worded more appropriately. However, as a high school teacher, I can attest to the fact that many young girls are wearing their uniform incorrectly. There is a code of conduct regarding the uniform and how it is to be worn, and more often than not, this is signed by the parents. 

I too am sick of seeing butt cheeks because shorts are pulled up so high and are 3 sizes too small so they are super tight. I don't care what rules you have for your kids outside of school, but I do not - and SHOULD NOT - have to witness this.
Male members of staff who are in positions of authority and therefore are the ones who have to address this situation (such as Year Coordinators etc), often feel uncomfortable having these conversations with the girls and ask female members of staff to do so. Female members of staff are also concerned about having these conversations because anything said can be twisted into body shaming or slut shaming, when this is not what is meant. It is simply a matter of wearing the uniform as it is supposed to be worn and avoiding situations where people (staff and students) are made to feel uncomfortable.

jobakerandco April 5, 2024

There's a reason why Santorini is so crowded; It's divine and a must-see, in my opinion. But you make a great point that there are SOOOO many other beautiful islands in Greece. So if you can, visit as many as possible. You won't regret it.

jobakerandco March 11, 2024

It's a competition. Sometimes your favourite wins, sometimes they don't...

jobakerandco February 19, 2024

Interesting suggestions. Not for me, though.

jobakerandco December 23, 2023

There are some good insights here, thank you. I think it is worth mentioning that while this article tends to focus on the mother's part in creating mother/daughter conflict, there are times when the daughter plays a part too. I learned this (as the daughter) because I now realise that the expectations I had of my mother were too unrealistic. That's not to say that the same isn't true for her in regard to me, but I can also recognise how I contributed to our relationship being difficult at times. 

jobakerandco September 16, 2023

I must be living under a rock because I never realised big boobs were 'out'. We've been bombarded for decades with images of slightly framed women with large boobs, and this has been the 'ideal' as far as beauty standards go, for a very long time. You are 100% right that 'real' boobs have never really been lauded; it's always the perfect, perky, round shape usually achieved with enhancements. And if that's your thing, go for it. But for most of us who don't have the funds or don't feel inclined to amend what we have for ethical, religious or any other reasons, we've just had to like it or lump it. It's sad that an article has to be written about the current 'boob fad'.

jobakerandco September 1, 2023

@ellenrk I relate to your experience. My parents worked long hours too, and this has taught me that they did their very best so my brother and I could have as many opportunities as possible. Like you, I never doubted their love. I too am proud and glad for the example they set, especially as my mum was the main income earner of our family. 

jobakerandco August 4, 2023

@mamamia-user-482898552 I'm glad I'm not the only one to think exactly what you've written :)

jobakerandco July 22, 2023

I can't even tell you how much I wanted to comment to support you, but the bandwagon was so strong on this one, that I was so worried I'd be attacked, too. Cowardly, I know. But that's the reality of the situation when keyboard warriors with absolutely no professional training in the field feel their opinion is more valid than that of others. I don't diminish their experience, and their truth is just that - THEIR truth. But to feel like they have the right to attack someone else who has shared their experience and perspective, and persist that THEY know your situation better than you do, is the absolute height of egocentric behaviour. I wish you the best of luck in your healing and hope that you and your daughter both get the help you need.

jobakerandco February 26, 2023

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Just know that your story will undoubtedly help others. Sending love and best wishes to you.