People speak about only children with such ignorance, discounting the hardships or personal choices (which are completely valid) of any parents who only have one child. In addition; my Chinese husband and billions of Chinese children are only kids, because it’s what the government dictated for a specific period of time. Thanks for the article, it spotlights a long glossed-over issue.

👏🏼👏🏼 You’d think it would be better business sense to cater for more sizes? 

I had the exact same thing happen when I had my son. I was convinced I was going to have a girl and really connected to that idea, I wasn’t disappointed, more so, disbelieving when I was told I was having a boy and it took me a few sonograms to actually understand the reality of having a boy. Now that I have him though I cannot imagine anyone different, I love every single thing about him and am obsessed with him, I’m so glad I have him, he’s so much better than my daydreams 💜

I’m also a white woman married to a Chinese man, he grew up the north east China and I’ve found that even the differences between Australian born Chinese people and Chinese born Chinese people are growing. Last year when Covid started he was on a train when someone threatened to hurt him unless he moved, earlier in our relationship we had an old man come up to us and tell us he disapproved of our relationship and when we had our first baby earlier this year he had to continually show ID and convince hospital staff he was my husband and our baby’s father. This is the tip of the iceberg. I think because Chinese people are generally reserved we don’t hear about their stories of casual racism in the same way as others, but it should be spoken about more. Our son looks very white but will speak fluent Mandarin, I’m hoping for a better world for him to grow up in where he can be proud of both his languages and heritages.