A devastating story on so many levels, I’m sorry that happened to you.
Yes, all of this. I’m sorry you have had this experience. It’s tragic and not fair.
I give my kids what I call “dinner picnics” all the time. Also known as whatever is in the fridge, some cold meat, crackers, cut fruit and veg, hummus and pita etc all the time. It’s “girl dinner” for kids and everyone is happy.
Cutting a parent or parents out is unimaginably painful and not done lightly. There’s plenty of defensiveness here and very little self reflection. There is no world in which you have nothing to apologise for, we all have things to apologise for. You can’t change her behaviour but you can reflect on what you could have done better and apologise for that in a way that is sincere and meaningful if you can allow yourself to get there. Be grateful to your parents for the support they are giving her.
This article feels disrespectful and judgemental of women and families. I don’t think we’d tolerate similar judgement from other professionals. I can’t imagine a ‘10 things your personal trainer or doctor wishes they could say’ written with a similar tone. Also, generally unclear on the holding back, sharing concerns and working in partnership to solve them in the best interests of a child is party of being a nanny. Disappointed by this one.