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ak87 January 13, 2021

@amy i have recently started in recruitment and when reviewing resumes I only pay attention to their name when keeping records, I don’t look at a name until after I have reviewed their work experience and if they have the correct skill set, in fact I spoke to someone yesterday who had the exact skill set for the job I was recruiting for and when I spoke with her it was quite obvious she was Polynesian, I could tell by her work experience she has worked hard to prove herself as capable. 

It may be that I myself have experienced discrimination for having a disability, but most of the people we get jobs for are actually of international backgrounds (my supervisor has specialised in IT recruitment for a number of years, I’m hoping to broaden my skill set outside of that scope), we also encourage indigenous applicants and people that have worked within indigenous communities. We do prioritise them if they have the right experience and/or skill set for the exact reasons mentioned here.
My supervisor picked me out of the blue, I hadn’t even applied for a Joh, but based on my skill set and experience she believed I was more than capable, and then we met and clicked instantly. I want to be able to provide the same unbiased opportunities for others and maybe be the one to give them the break they deserve.

ak87 January 1, 2021

@elspeth I feel like by just ready the descriptions I think I already can tell the ‘twist’ in at least 4 of them. Part of the reason I only borrow books from the library now.

ak87 December 12, 2020

I fell in love with the Tiffany’s princess cut ring, so got a much cheaper/smaller version. Engagement rings all look the same nowadays, anyway, is it really that big a deal??? They can’t be the exact same as you are different people in different relationships. A ring doesn’t define a relationship.

ak87 December 7, 2020

@rush exactly, it’s obvious all of those photos of her with smooth skin are photoshopped, just look at the scar on her cheek in natural photos 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s quite obvious she has acne scarring in those photos too. You only have to watch a make-up tutorial on YouTube to see what a crap tonne of makeup and good lighting can do, ‘Nikki Tutorials’ is the perfect example here. Even a fake tan can make skin look smoother!

ak87 December 7, 2020

Having had a trial declared a mistrial and the thought of the prospect of having to go through it again leading me to self-harm, I really feel for these women. 

You are picked apart and scrutinised, called a liar to your face by the defence team, I even had things that were no relation to the case at all about the relationship brought up, as in it didn’t even help them try to discredit my reputation (about a cat dying from natural causes 2 years prior?!). 
The thought of having to go through it all again, when you had to psych yourself up the first time, is devastating.

ak87 December 6, 2020

To be fair, the bank one is the banks own stupid fault for having a phone number so close to a competitors, I’m sure that there would be plenty of customers who would make that mistake themselves over the years if they are that close!

ak87 December 6, 2020

@mamamia-user-482898552 I get what you are saying, as someone who has been in and out of hospital my whole life and had thousands of medical students accompanying my several doctors, I know the difference between students, residents and registrars (from my experience most leave between residency and becoming a registrar - and all of this was observed and learned before I was even in high school, let alone Greys being on TV), but she is still ‘technically speaking’ a doctor IN TRAINING, you don’t become qualified in anything until AFTER you have completed training. And given all of her achievements AND studying medicine AND doing placements with a small child who seems to still be in nappies, those are amazing achievements! She’s not going to have access to patients without supervision so I really don’t think the way she uses the terminology outside of the hospital setting matters, given she will always be introduced by the supervising doctor before even being allowed to say hello to a patient. Personally, I think she deserves to call herself a a trainee doctor - in her personal life, the general population don’t  understand most terminology anyway.

ak87 November 15, 2020

All well an good for someone who can actually afford close to $200 a WEEK to put aside.. for all those out of work thanks to covid they can’t even afford that much for groceries for a family, let alone to put aside.. as a pensioner, that’s almost half my annual ‘income’. I have just started a casual job just to afford more than baked beans soup and eggs for dinner.

ak87 November 1, 2020

@maya I was seconds away from death and my offender still only got a good behaviour order and ‘DV education’ and I have a DVO I can renew every 2 years. I had an incident where he inadvertently threatened me with his car and do you know what the police told me? “He didn’t verbally threaten you and he didn’t follow you so there is nothing we can do”. What was the point of me reliving the hell he put me through when I testified, then again the ongoing hell I went through after that reliving it in my victim impact statement, only to be told when an incident occurred, with witnesses, there’s nothing that can be done?

ak87 November 1, 2020

@rush my offender had to do compulsory DV education. At sentencing he still didn’t think he had done anything wrong and blamed me for what HE did. I am certain the education would have been pointless with him. Unless the offender understands and takes responsibility for their actions, no amount of anything will make a difference. He still lives in my neighbourhood and over two and a half years later I still struggle with the aftermath and am triggered if I even drive past him.

ak87 September 4, 2020

My hair is naturally this exact colouring! Finally I’m effortlessly trendy... only 30 something years...

ak87 August 23, 2020

My cats knew I was pregnant before I knew both times. Females cats, desexed, but started spraying around the time I conceived (hadn’t done the tests yet!) stopped after a few weeks. Also became REALLY smoochy and neither were typically smoochy. Obviously they didn’t know it was pregnancy, but they could tell something had changed in me.

ak87 August 17, 2020

@fightofyourlife I read the whole thing and honestly, even if I was willing to spend $200 on a single pair of jeans (if my Kmart $15 jeans only last 3 years, still a decent investment imo!) the article was very lacking in enthusiasm considering she apparently lives them..

ak87 August 9, 2020

That first one, a definite married man trying to have an affair, it has ALL the red flags.

ak87 August 7, 2020

@snorks thank you for the intellectual conversation rather than the stupidity being broadcast out there. Whist the first WWII reference was kind of a moot point (realistically, they are still doing it with asylum seeker detention..).

I understand the point with the blackout orders, but people don’t have to like laws/rules, just follow them, when it’s in the interest of health and safety, the other issues many have mentioned aren’t relevant. 

As someone with a friend who has asthma so severe it is bordering on emphysema (only in their early 40’s, another friends husband died from cardiac complications from an asthma attack a few years back, he was only 40), an 89 year old grandmother living in Victoria and having lost my stepdad to his second lot of cancer (and having had to isolate myself for 2 weeks from him because I had shingles, which passing along to him in the form of chicken pox would have killed him), it actually really angers me that people are putting those peoples lives at risk, and tens of thousands like them, just because they feel uncomfortable. 
I HAD to wear a mask when taking my stepdad to chemo, I HAD to wear a mask the first time I visited my 4 week premature brothers (I was 6) and for the first few days of my 6 week premature baby’s life, but I had no issue in doing so, because it was keeping them safe, whilst visiting my son was technically a choice, the other two were not (my stepdad couldn’t get to chemo without me, and at 6 I had to do what I was told). 
Doctors and nurses HAVE to wear them in many situations even without a pandemic, they certainly don’t complain, and as has been shared they actually end up with injuries having to wear them all day every day currently, because it is to keep the majority safe.

And side note; thank you for understanding my point, I know it was a terrible example, but at least you got the idea. 

Whilst the legalities are somewhat murky, I don’t see ANY judge erring on the defendants side in these cases, because of the situation.
Did you know, Victoria also had the worst outbreaks and highest death toll in Australia in the beginning during the last pandemic, the Spanish flu? Did you also know it’s not the first time we have been ordered to wear masks?

ak87 August 4, 2020

I haven’t watched it yet, but I am going to.

I’m glad there are now things out there that show not all people with autism are the same, especially when so many news articles that have to do with someone with autism being violent, they aren’t all violent. I have a brother on the spectrum, but he is so much more than his diagnosis. Yes, he has meltdowns sometimes, and yes, it can be overwhelming for us, his family, but when he has had a girlfriend, she becomes his whole world and he treats her like a princess. He deserves love just like everyone.

ak87 August 2, 2020

@rush right?! I had wanted to go on a weekend cruise for my birthday this month.. it would be my first if I had (not that any are available here) now I am reconsidering ever going on one!

ak87 August 2, 2020

@snorks I do understand where you are coming from, but it’s not as simple as “the government telling us what we have to wear”. They aren’t doing it to infringe upon our human rights, in fact they are doing it to protect our human rights - the right to live a safe and healthy life. They are doing it to save lives, not to be a$$holes. And it’s only under emergency orders, once the country is declared pandemic free (hopefully sometime in the next 6-12 months, for all our sakes!) those emergency orders are discarded because of the order they were made under.

It’s exactly the same as if we were under attack and we were ordered to stay indoors, or better yet, told to cover our bodies as fully as possible to avoid some kind of radiation (honestly not sure how that would work, but it’s the closest example I can think of to the masks), people wouldn’t flout the rules and risk their lives if that was the case, but they are now?! 
People were literally panic buying masks during the bushfires, but now that they HAVE to wear them, they have an issue with it?! It’s unbelievable.

Alz August 30, 2019

As someone who has suffered on and off (I say on and off as I haven’t always suffered from it, but always have it) with mental illness my entire adult life (and then some), I know now I can’t survive without psychologists. I would see one when things were bad then stop when things were good. This meant my BPD2 went undiagnosed until I was 31 when I finally saw my psychologist when I was doing well too. I realise now they aren’t just there for the crisis and they can know you much better if they see you in the good times as well as the bad. I’m very lucky to have been given funding for extra visits this year through a victim support organisation so I can see my psychologist every 2-3 weeks without having to worry about if I can afford it (at $120 a session there’s no way I could even afford monthly after my 10 Medicare sessions were up!) but if you can space out sessions outside of crisis times to once a month (take off December/jan of you can, being such busy times for most people anyway) when you are doing well, you will be amazed at how much seeing a psychologist even in good times helps! It also means when you reach a crisis 1. It’s not hard to get in to see them and 2. They recognise it sometimes before you do!

Alz August 28, 2019

I assure you, height restrictions don’t stop this happening!
My mum somehow convinced me when we went to wonderland for my 9th birthday, that the pirate ship at the end of wonderland was different to the one at the start and this one didn’t go all the way around. I easily met the height restriction!
But when the ride started going upside down, because I was so skinny (how I wish I had that build still) I started slipping! I was sure I was going to fall out of it which is why I screamed. My mum thought my screaming was hilarious not realising it wasn’t just the going upside down but I honestly felt like I was going to fall out and die. It didn’t make my mum irresponsible taking me on it, I was at least a good 7cm over the height restriction. I just didn’t have enough body fat to fill out the gap between the seat and the harness, they don’t alert you to things like that!

I went back years later and went on the pirate ship 5+ times with my friends not scared at all, because I didn’t literally lift out of my seat.

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