this is scaring me somewhat :( my partner & i are 'second-time rounders' - got on well with 1st mum-in-law - but his mum turned sour when we got engaged & then we decided to move for his work & she lost the plot & insisted that it was my decision & 'fault' referring to me as 'she' & 'her' in an extremely condescending manner (his sister was also peed off as she thought it was his turn to look after the parents (they were already living in a full service retirement village) since then she never includes me in any family things she organises , never asks about me except when my parents dies & she asked her son how much money i was worth now? The worry for me really is that he just fobs it off with "she's old & cranky" (no argument from me there) & " you aren't missing anything by not going to family things" I don't want him to have a full on fight & split from his family but i WOULD like to feel that i have a bit more support - i worry am i setting myself up for disappointment ?