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tashlassalle March 4, 2023

You have gorgeous legs and an amazing body, and I understand what it feels like to let insecurities about your body dictate the choices you make in life. So thank you for sharing your story, both sides of the radical self acceptance. 

tashlassalle February 2, 2023

I just wanted to say thank you for this article. Sometimes we mums need another Mum to remind us that we can give ourselves permission to say no and let things go, and that we are still enough. I was one of those mums who was feeling completely overwhelmed and exhausted after a full year of doing All The School Mum Things, and I just needed to hear these things from another Mum who really gets it. 

tashlassalle November 4, 2022

We celebrate people who choose to become parents using donor sperm/eggs, congratulating them for exercising their rights and fighting to fulfill their dreams of parenthood no matter the cost. But what about the rights and desires of the child that will grow up without having known their other biological parent? 

tashlassalle November 4, 2022

This poignantly shows us the reality of only considering the rights of the mother/father/couple to bear a child, without considering the rights of the child. It will become more prolific as conception using donor eggs and sperm becomes more common. And twenty years later, there will be a whole generation of people who grew up not knowing who their biological parent was, who would now like to know and meet them, but can’t. So many of them, like Zac, grow up feeling the absence of that parent and sensing a need for connection with them. I think their stories should give us as a society more pause. 

tashlassalle October 6, 2022

Yeah I have to agree with the other commenters. She really couldn’t pass as her twin and she takes after her Dad way more. Just because two people have the same colouring and styling doesn’t mean they look exactly the same. I’d say none of their features mirror the other’s, but the difference is most pronounced in their noses and their lips. 

tashlassalle November 14, 2021

Wow she is stunningly gorgeous 🤩

tashlassalle February 11, 2021

@mamamia-user-236023277 LOL Mr and Mrs George Brooksbank are her husband Jack’s parents. Why would Eugenie need to be informed of her own son’s birth 

tashlassalle June 8, 2020

Do you know who is shocked? White people. I don’t know a single person of colour (myself included) who doesn’t have similar or worse personal experiences of being subject to racism in this country. 

Tabitha May 5, 2018

How awful, so sorry to hear this happened to him, this is my worst nightmare. Thank goodness you had your wits about you and went to check on him when you did. What did you say when you saw them on the couch and what was his reaction??

Tabitha May 5, 2018

Even before I had kids I knew I’d never be OK with sleepovers, partly because I am a victim of sexual abuse myself and I have several friends who have also been abused as children. A friend in high school was sexually abused at a sleepover by the host friend’s father and was exposed to pornographic material. Another friend of mine was molested during a play date at her friend’s home. The mothers were hanging out in the kitchen downstairs and the host friend had an older brother in his twenties, who lured the visiting friend to his room and molested her. Her mother completely trusted this family and had watched this young man grow up and had no reason to question him. My sister’s friend was raped repeatedly from when she was a child by her own uncle during visits to his home. They were learning about sexual abuse in a Personal Development/ Physical Ed class in year seven when it dawned on her that what she had experienced was rape, before that she didn’t realise because she had been abused and manipulated for so long. I think you should trust your instinct and do not let people shame you for wanting to protect your children, this isn’t a shameful desire. Don’t forget that you declining an invitation for a sleepover is not passing judgment on this man per se, although people might accuse you of that. You declining an invitation for a sleepover is you doing what you as a mother are comfortable with. If by implication the inviter feels judged, well that isn’t your problem. You need to draw the line with what you are comfortable with and that needs to be respected by everyone, including your daughter and your daughter’s friends/friend’s parents.