@laura__palmer No it isn't. It's only harmful if you think there is something inherently right being 'whiter' and wrong being 'darker'.
I myself am not white and I don't think that being curious about what my future kids will look like when mixed with my Latino husbands genes is racist
I can understand this completely. It is painful to let go of a dream, especially of children. I think it will be really unfair if you do not respect your partners wishes with his decision on this. I don't think a child who is not wanted should ever be brought into the world