I really love the time and energy you’ve put into understanding your partner & working to improve your relationship. As women we’re good at looking after our loved ones  and making sure their needs are met. I just really hope he is doing the same for you as living with an anxiety disorder isn’t easy either. Great article 🥰

I had a school refuser. Even though his older brother loved school and set a great example of how fun it could be, he was not having a bar of it. From leaving him screaming in the principal’s  office, to sitting in the classroom with him for hours, to bringing in support workers, nothing worked. Yes we did all the ‘right’ things - paediatrician, psychologist, social skills training, etc…. Many stressful & unhappy years. At home he was calm & happy but school was just too much. High school was the real deal breaker - parents aren’t really welcomed there as much as in primary school. We never really got further than the car park there. Thank goodness We ended up finding a high school that was specifically for kids who were unable to attend a main stream for many different reasons. There was never any pressure if you didn’t show up. No more lectures about “you’re ruining your future!” . They just praised the kids for turning up - even if late. Allowed for quiet spaces and individual learning. Had school pets (made a massive difference!) and basically let the kids create a ‘like home’ feel. My son is now in his 20’s. He still prefers to be at home but he also knows how to leave the house and join in with society when required. He is smart & happy and for me & my husband that is the important thing!