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geekgirlau December 3, 2020

We receive daily updates on the road toll - why don’t we receive the domestic abuse death toll? 

geekgirlau November 22, 2020

Anyone posting physical threats needs to be reported to the police. There is a law against “using a carriage service to menace, harass or cause offence” and it carries a penalty of 3-10 years imprisonment. 

geekgirlau August 23, 2020

I’ve been replaced twice by younger women. 

The first time I had ended the relationship after 14 years. With 3 months he started dating someone 15 years his junior. The second time, my partner (born in the same year as me) starting dating someone 18 years his junior. He announced the relationship within a handful of weeks, and moved in with her after a few months (abandoning his teenage kids in the move interstate).

Every time I see a relationship with this kind of age gap I do make assumptions. I see (predominantly) men who have decided that women of their generation are worthless; too old, too difficult. It’s a slap in the face for women like myself who are in their 50s, who are largely viewed as being too old for our contemporaries because they want to be dating 30-year-olds. 

I know that someone else’s relationship is nothing to do with me, but when I see these couples in public, I’m going to assume that this is a sad, stereotypical mid-life crisis in action. 

geekgirlau August 16, 2020

The lengths this guy went to in order to confront this woman who “owed” him an explanation make it chilling. 

geekgirlau June 14, 2020

I experienced a not-quite-ghosting after 3 years. I believe it was exactly what you described. A man who was too cowardly and uncomfortable to have ANY difficult conversation, so instead chose to avoid talking and run away. 

As a CIS woman I may not always shut down a prospect in person, as unfortunately some men react negatively and can become threatening.  But a follow up text thanking them for their time and stating kindly that you don’t see a future in it, well that’s just good manners. 

geekgirlau August 28, 2019

In movies and fiction, our partners are perfectly in tune with us. They have exactly the same expectations as we do in every scenario - that’s how you know they’re “the one”.

In real life, not so much.

Perhaps it’s time to stop expecting another human to read your mind and make your expectations clear. It may feel a little strange at first but I guarantee it’s worth it. If you have been specific and your partner chooses not to deliver, that’s a whole different kettle of fish to them not realising how you expected things to go.

Personally I was never interested in a push present but clearly it means something to you. Do you know for certain that your partner knew your feelings on the matter?

Don’t get hung up on “if he loves me I shouldn’t have to say anything” - that’s a romantic ideal. Put on your big girl pants and tell him what you need.

geekgirlau February 14, 2019

Mine was 3 years.

And now 4 years down the track the scars are still there. I no longer date because I can’t face going through that again. I’m too old for this shit.

You coward

geekgirlau January 1, 2019

When my ex gave up smoking several years ago he was an absolute dick.

I bit my tongue for several weeks but finally lost my temper. I reminded him that the fact that he was going through withdrawal did not give him license to take it out on me.

He did pull his head in somewhat after that, and has been a non-smoker for several years.

Some crankiness is to be expected and overlooked where possible. But that doesn’t mean he is absolved of all responsibility for acting like a decent human being.

geekgirlau September 5, 2018

Did it escape your notice that she's a comedian? Personally I think it's great to be able to laugh at ourselves and some of the admittedly ridiculous things we do as parents.

geekgirlau August 6, 2018

I feel your pain.

Jockey Parisienne cheeky range. Not going to be as flexible as your others, but very comfortable.

However I'm finding it harder and harder to locate these in store now too :(

geekgirlau March 28, 2018

If you want to have some fun with this, have a discussion next to me she’s over for dinner. Along the lines of “Dave and I are concerned that you’re unable to remember my name. Have you been to see your doctor lately? At your age it might be a good idea to have a comprehensive test of your cognitive function.”

Actually the best policy is not to play the passive aggressive game. Address it directly, in person, and in front of your husband. Demonstrate that at least one of you is capable of acting like an adult.

geekgirlau March 28, 2018

Does it matter?

My kids have their father’s surname purely on the basis that it’s easier to spell, and my surname as a middle name. But seriously - why does it matter?

geekgirlau March 25, 2018

Unfortunately some people are never going to get this. You can't always predict when anxiety and panic attacks are going to hit, and it can hit so hard that there is nothing you can do other than remove yourself from the situation.

I think it would be a good idea to talk to your friend, but think carefully about how you word your apology. You didn't do this intentionally, and it's not your fault that you have a mental illness - you shouldn't feel the need to apologise for that. But it may help her if she understood that you wanted to be there, and wish that you hadn't had to leave.

Being around people who choose to be judgemental about your condition is really hard, and can exacerbate your anxiety.

geekgirlau August 29, 2017

Tempting, but I suspect this is WAAAAY more hard maintenance for thick hair.

geekgirlau February 26, 2017

In 2017 why do they still have to wear dresses or skirts?

geekgirlau February 12, 2017

Being married and having a family doesn't mean that you stop being an individual.

What's the harm? A bit of alone time is healthy, and there's no reason that you can't do the same if you wish.

geekgirlau January 30, 2017

"Keep yourself open to love, knowing that it's going to come."


It's called a 'fairytale' because it's unrealistic. And the sooner you realise this, the better off you'll be.

geekgirlau January 2, 2016

There are some toys that need to remain broken! If battery operated, bend the contacts so that the batteries don't work. That way even if someone replaces the batteries you're still safe.