@snorks - I know this has been mentioned to you already but do feel that I need to point this out to you - she clearly told her second husband right from the start how she felt about porn  - "I’d gone into my second marriage believing my husband would not view porn because he told me he didn’t use it and didn’t like men who did." and that she thought their values aligned - he misguided her and lied to her - it doesn't sound to me at all that she is or was controlling.  I guess your stance comes from your views on porn and not from your ability to seek empathy for this person.  Anyone reading articles like these need to thoroughly seek to learn more about empathy or seek to learn more about the topic.  Please try to make the world a better place for all - adults and most importantly our beautiful children.