There’s a website called Direct Advice for Dads (D.A.D.) which is exactly about this - helping dads navigate the changes and providing advice in a way that’s relevant for them.

Going through this now with our six-month-old. Meanwhile my nine-year-old daughter has told me I am her fourth favourite person with Daddy number one. 🤣 It definitely doesn’t stay the same forever. But it’s great to hear that dads should support the mum as their most important job. So true!

I read Gone Girl because I heard it had an amazing twist but I found the ending so unsatisfying after such a long book. Any in this list have endings where the story is resolved in a satisfying way? (Without giving away spoilers of course.)

@mamamia-user-739637812 I love having three but as previously posted, I have age gaps of more than four years between each one. Still challenging in lots of ways but totally worthwhile.

@tesstify Yes I agree the age gaps matter. Mine were 9 and 4 when my third was born. The eldest can hold the baby if needs be, and the older siblings are both quite capable of doing basic things, even making their own lunch if needs be. Three under school age would be much harder!

I remember when I first found out about Alfie and Lily Allen, because I remembered that song ‘Alfie’ that Lily wrote about him, and how all he did was smoke weed in his bedroom all day. I was shocked that he actually turned out to be quite successful!